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Grief - a life lesson

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We lost a member of the family this week when our dog, Pepper, died suddenly on Sunday.

Nothing could prepare us for his death and the past few days have been a life lesson on grief.  The kids were especially hit hard as he was very dear and loved by each child.  Andy and I are also grieving the loss and we talk about Pepper everyday.  It is good for us to keep talking about the feelings and thoughts we have about Pepper, to keep him alive in our hearts and to let him go a little more each day.

The 1997 book, On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, MD list five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.  We are all in the depression and acceptance stage at this point.  I am finding joy in the kids' laughter and the fun they have with each other and reading "Calvin and Hobbes" comic books.

We took time yesterday morning to write on the stones that mark Pepper's grave.  The kids used paint markers to write his name and a short sentence; they also found small rocks to write on and keep on their desks - another way to memorialize him.  We put together a memory book full of pictures, short stories, and letters we each wrote to him.  In some ways the reminiscing was painful and healing at the same time (don't know if this makes any sense).  We have all cried at different times - tears are good for healing the pain, and this family has drawn closer to each other through it all.  It has helped to know that he is in heaven playing and loving the children there, bringing joy to all who know him.



Arlene is co-founder and Chief Mom. Arlene holds a California teaching credential and continues to be the primary home educator for her children.  Arlene also holds a Bachelors Degree in Rhetoric and Communications from UC Davis, California.